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CHOC Walk in the Park at Disneyland

CHOC Walk in the Park at Disneyland

I decisively made the decision to enter the nursing program at the local university I was attending in the Fall of 1996. I had just transferred to a university that was closer to home, and at the time, I was an English major on task […]

CTFD With The Essential Oils, Folks

CTFD With The Essential Oils, Folks

We get it… essential oils are fabulous. I mean, who doesn’t love diffusing a little lavender before bed? But if you’re a die-hard oil fanatic who tries to push your oilology on everyone you know, well… we need to have a talk. In case you’re […]

‘Experts’ Say You Should Have TWICE Your Salary Saved By 35, And Twitter Claps Back

‘Experts’ Say You Should Have TWICE Your Salary Saved By 35, And Twitter Claps Back

MarketWatch recently published an article called “Money Milestones: This is how your finances should look in your 30s,” in which it claims that everyone should have saved a year’s worth of salary by the age of 30. And by age 35, those savings should have doubled.

I’m sorry, what? HOW?

I have been living paycheck to paycheck for most of my adult life. At what point are we going to acknowledge that between stagnant wages, crippling student debt, and inflation on things like food and rent, this is not a realistic standard for most people? And it’s even more unrealistic for women, who are still paid substantially less than their male counterparts.

In fact, 6 in 10 Americans don’t even have $500 in savings. So this article makes a lot of assumptions that aren’t even remotely realistic for most of us.

MarketWatch then shared their article on Twitter, where the hilariously honest responses reflected what financial life is actually like for millennials.

Let’s start with the obvious:

Maybe this was all just a miscommunication:

Because the math just doesn’t add up:

Here’s a more realistic expectation to hold yourself to:

Or:

Because this is what it’s actually like:

Unless I’m doing the wrong math:

Account balances be like:

The article even sites reasons that this isn’t attainable:

In fact:

Again, this is even truer for women:

And now my perception of the world and everything in it has changed:

Maybe this is what they meant:

Or this:

Or this?

This is why this whole concept is ridiculous:

They should at least let the people who pay us know:

In the meantime, the rest of this garbage world finally makes sense:

Millennials aren’t lazy and entitled as much as we have been backed into an economical stalemate where the cost of living has dramatically increased, but wages haven’t. So unless you were lucky enough to be born into wealth, it’s safe to say this statistic isn’t a realistic one for most of us.

This Video Captures What Life Is Really Like With A Newborn

This Video Captures What Life Is Really Like With A Newborn

Newborn: a tiny human that resembles a loaf of bread — if that loaf of bread could scream and had no control over any of its bodily functions. Those first hours and days with a newborn are often a blur of tears (both yours and […]

What I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Postpartum Anxiety

What I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Postpartum Anxiety

Being pregnant was great. Books, websites, and forums existed for any and every topic I could imagine. They detailed every step of the process so the mom-to-be felt prepared for everything. As a person with anxiety, I found comfort in the millions of pages of […]

What It’s Really Like To Struggle With Hair Loss

What It’s Really Like To Struggle With Hair Loss

“I hate myself,” I wrote. “All I’ve been able to think about for the past two weeks is my hair. I hate how it’s consuming me. Like my hair loss, I feel like my self-pity is unstoppable. I am a monster to my children. I can’t sleep. Food doesn’t taste good. I spend hours a day looking at my bald spots in the mirror — hours just obsessing over how and why and what I did wrong and what I’m doing wrong. I want to stop. I want to scream. I don’t want it to be this way. But I feel obsessed by a force. I don’t know how to control myself and my thoughts and my obsession. It’s all-consuming and I feel like this miserable cycle will never end.”

My journey with hair loss began the summer after my second baby turned one. And I had been so busy with life as a working mother of two I hadn’t even noticed. Until one day in June, as I was getting ready for work, straightening my hair, and tilted the mirror in just the right direction and there it was — a bald spot starting right back at me smack in the middle of my head. I began searching and before long I found another; this one was a little smaller and on the top of my head, right along my part line.

Immediately, I went numb. And I almost passed out.

Remember how they tell you that postpartum hair loss is gradual and you won’t lose all of your hair? No one ever said anything about bald spots.

I began frantically researching what on earth could be wrong with me. What vitamin was I missing? How were my iron levels? Did I have a thyroid problem?

I went to one dermatologist and he took one look at me, declared that I had “alopecia areata.” He told me he had no idea why it was happening. He gave me some steroid shots in my scalp, told me to use Rogaine and come back in four weeks.

I was devastated. I had done just enough Google research to know that alopecia areata (AA) was autoimmune and could be lifelong. I had also read horror stories about people with AA who never regrew hair and eventually lost all of it. How could this be happening to me!?

I’ve never had great hair. It’s always been too thin or too fine or too flat. But I’d never had hair loss before. Even after the birth of my first daughter, my hair loss hadn’t even been noticeable. And I also tended to keep my pregnancy hair until I began to wean my babies, resulting in years of thicker, more luscious hair.

This hair loss proved to be a nightmare. I found myself longing for my old, thin hair that used to annoy me. I continued to shed — not just from my bald spots, but from all over…for months. I saw another dermatologist who had a more gentle approach. She gave me topical steroids and more shots, and assured me I would regrow hair. She still didn’t have any answers for me, but somehow she gave me hope.

I weaned my second baby — through lots of tears — and began using Rogaine. I wore a hat a pretty much all summer long and my hair style consisted of a lot of French braids to hide my ever-growing bald spots. I ended up with three spots and the largest was the size of a golf ball. For the most part, I was too scared to show even my family and friends. I had a wonderful support system with my mother, mother-in-law and sisters-in-law, but a part from them I was scared to talk about it.

That summer was rough. But by the fall, I had small tufts of regrowth and my shedding seemed to subside.

But then, in the winter my hair began to shed again, this time all over.

It was a devastating journey that again spiraled me into depression, anxiety, fear, and more self-loathing.

“Hair loss is so demoralizing,” one friend wrote in a text to me. And so many people don’t understand how debilitating it can be.

“It’s just hair,” people tell me. “It’ll grow back.”

But what if it doesn’t? It’s a thought that is always in the back of my mind.

Through my journey, I am learning to live with my reality.

I have two little girls and I tell myself daily that they don’t care what my hair looks like. They will love their mom, not in spite of her hair loss, but because she was brave enough not to let it define her.

Why We Need To Talk To Our Kids About LGBTQ Issues Early On

Why We Need To Talk To Our Kids About LGBTQ Issues Early On

“Uncle Chris, is she your girlfriend?” Suddenly I felt like I did before I was out of the closet. How is it that I, who have been out of the closet for 10 years, who’s life is dedicated to LGBTQ advocacy work, have a six-year-old […]

Only Half Of Your Friends Actually Like You

Only Half Of Your Friends Actually Like You

As parents, it seems friendships are harder to maintain than ever. Even worse? A study from 2016 revealed that only about 50 percent of your friendships are actually real friends. That means half of the people you consider a friend probably don’t feel the same about […]

Scary Mommy Confessional: Mommy Me Time

Scary Mommy Confessional: Mommy Me Time

It’s another unforgettable Scary Mommy Confessional. And it’s secrets so juicy that we may need to place these ladies into “Mommy Witness Protection.” Learn how to stage the perfect bathroom escape from the kids and how to maximize bathtime with this essential guide to finding time for yourself.

Chrissy Teigen Shares Name And Adorable First Pics Of New Baby

Chrissy Teigen Shares Name And Adorable First Pics Of New Baby

Chrissy Teigen and John Legend’s son arrived Wednesday evening Chrissy Teigen and John Legend just shared an adorable photo of their baby boy who joined the world Wednesday evening. Earlier in the week, the model let the world know that their son had arrived with […]